I am so excited to introduce Momma's Living Room's FIRST EVER guest writer! Woo-Hoo! Madison Weaver, who blogs at From This Day Forward, has a great message for us today! Let's listen close as she shares her testimony about how God turned her (and her husband's) trials into blessings!
How God Turned Our Trials into Blessings
Life can be hard. We all know that to be true. As we grow up and become adults, the trials that we face can become harder and harder to deal with. Even though those trials are unavoidable, God gives us so many blessings in the midst of them! I have experienced this many times in my life. The more trials that I have, the more I appreciate the blessings God gives me. I have experienced many trials in my relationship with my husband Steven that God has taken and worked for our good. Even though we couldn't see it at the time, he was preparing us for the many, many blessings that we would be receiving because of those trials!
I met my husband when I was 13 years old and he was 14. The crazy part is, we met in Disney World! Our families have been connected for years, and we never knew it. My Grandparents and his guardians have been friends before my husband and I were even born. We all met in Disney, stayed for a week, and that's when it all started. I asked Steven to be my boyfriend (yes, I did) in Epcot on December 23rd, 2010. Five years later, we became husband and wife! To this day, we believe it was God who had all of this planned out before we were even thought of.
When I was 13, I thought that I would be alone forever. I hadn't had a boyfriend, nor had I been kissed. I thought I was the girl that no boy would ever want to date because I was overweight and unattractive. I was only 13 and had more than enough time for dating, but you couldn’t convince me of that. I thought no boy would ever want me! Then I met my husband. God took that trial, and turned it around into one of the biggest blessings of my life! If I had been in a relationship at the time I met Steven, we would not be where we are today.
But that didn’t mean our relationship was all roses and sunshine from the start. There were some times throughout our dating years that we really thought our world was crashing down!
One of the very first barricades to our relationship was the distance between us. He lived in Florida, and I lived in South Carolina. That is an eight-hour drive and five hundred miles between us! How in the world were we going to make that work? God had huge plans for us, so He made a way. That doesn’t mean it was an easy or popular way, but it brought us together and for that, I am forever grateful. Because of various issues and reasons (other than us being able to be together), Steven asked my mom if he could move in with us and live in the attic above our house. After months of praying and seeking wise counsel from many pastors, my mom allowed Steven to move in.
Let me pause here and say that many people did not and will not agree with this part of our story. I know because that is one of the challenges we have faced throughout our relationship. In order to really form an opinion on this, you have to know all the details of the story. For privacy reasons, I will not go into detail on that subject. Steven’s reasons for moving to South Carolina were very biblical. We were living in two separate areas and supervised at all times when we were together. So, before I go any further, I wanted to clarify that God did not call us to sin.
Because of this part of our story, we lost many people that we thought were truly our family and friends. Some of my blood family turned out to be against us and ridiculed my mother and me for our decisions. We have had much judgment thrown on our family for doing what God has called us to do, but didn't God say that would happen? Jesus was ridiculed every day of his life on earth because He was doing The Father's work.
We have many broken relationships still to this day, but God did not let that stop His plan for our lives. We continued to grow together and our love got stronger each day. But, that did not mean that we were perfect. We still struggled with horrible communication issues, getting used to our extremely different cultures, other family issues, and much more. God had to teach us how to love each other like we were called to. He refined us through many situations and hardships that we experienced in our five years of dating. There were times when we thought this relationship would never work. There were times when we were so angry at each other we didn't know what else to do but cry. There were times when we thought we would never get out of a certain situation, and times we just wanted to hide away from the world. Through all of this, God held us up! He was preparing us for our many blessings that were up ahead. He was preparing us for this wonderful thing called marriage, and this wonderful life that we live now.
Our dating years were not all hard. We had some truly beautiful moments throughout those years as well. Those were times that we grew together, experienced new things together, fell in love, and learned so much about our Lord together. By the grace of God, we are here today! We have been married for almost a year and a half, and it has been the most blissful year and a half of my life. Our marriage has benefited tremendously from those trials and tribulations that we faced while we were dating. If it weren't for those hard times, we would not know how to love each other like we do today. Our marriage is unbreakably strong today because of God. He is the glue that holds us together when we feel like we are falling apart.
Has your marriage grown because of your trials and tribulations? Are you struggling in your marriage right now? I would love to pray for you! Please leave a comment below!
If you want to invest in your marriage and learn how to truly become one with your husband, I have the perfect resource for you! I just released my new e-book “Becoming One: A 30-Day Devotional for Wives”! It is designed to help wives grow closer to their husbands while also growing closer to God. To learn more about it and purchase, go to From This Day Forward Blog.
Madison is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.
To read more from Madison, head on over to her blog, From This Day Forward.